Voice Dialogue Trainings : The POWER of TWO
Dorsey and Neil are a great teaching team! As a therapist and a poet both deeply involved in Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves - each offers a unique contribution. As a couple, they "walk their talk" so that their teaching comes from a rich combination of knowledge, expertise and personal experience. We are delighted to recommend them as teachers of our work. Hal Stone, Ph.D. & Sidra Stone, Ph.D.
Who’s Dialoguing the Dialogue? Who’s Mirroring the Mirror?
As an Imago Therapist, much of your time is spent guiding your couples through the Imago Dialogue – supporting each as they take turns sending and receiving; teaching them how to defuse their reactivity and return to intentionality.
At those gut wrenching times when one partner is caught up in their reactivity - Wouldn’t you love an additional, effective tool for helping them shift back to intentionality? The Voice Dialogue method enables you to dialogue directly with the part that became reactive; enabling your client to get some separation from those strong feelings (often judgments) so that they can be a safe sender or receiver.
As an Imago therapist, you know that in love relationships what each partner most needs from the other for their healing is what the other is least able to give to them due to the coping defenses they develop to deal with their childhood wounding.
How much easier if you can dialogue directly with the parts that are defensive? What a gift when you can support your clients in enrolling these parts (resistances) into the BCR process?
How much better if the requesting partner can hear directly from the wounded part as to what that part really needs for healing?
In the Keeping book, Harville states, “In a matter of seconds, we may switch from feeling as we did as a child to acting like the parent we liked least. Here is the heart of the power struggle.” KTLYF, Page 231, 1992
Teach your clients an expanded perception of these archetypical Parent/Child Bonding Patterns and how to stay in intentionality when they come into play?
In his most recent book, Receiving Love, with Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, they state,
“Self-rejection is the most universal and least recognized problem in our lives. It is the source of all our difficulties in giving and receiving love.” RL, p. 72, 2004.
· Learn more about the origins and purpose of the inner critic that fuels this self-rejection and teach your clients how to lessen its role in their lives.
In the introduction to Getting the Love You Want, A guide for Couples, Dr. Harville Hendrix states that, “Whether or not you realize the full potential of this vision [intimate, joyful, life long union] depends not on your willingness to attract a perfect mate, but on your willingness to acquire knowledge about hidden parts of yourself.”
GTLYW: A Guide for Couples, 1st Edition, p. xiv. 1990.
For your single clients:
“If you are able to reclaim some of your split off parts while you are single, you will not need to seek them in another.” KTLYF: A Personal Guide, p. 221, 1992.
Using Voice Dialogue in conjunction with Imago Relationship Therapy, you and your clients will develop conscious relationships with these hidden and split off parts as well as with the parts (character structure) that have kept them hidden and split off.
Want to learn more? Your colleagues have found Dorsey and Neil’s one-hour interview with Maya Kollman informative and inspiring. Audiopodium available 24/7 – call 918-222-7201, ext. 349.
Upcoming Opportunities to learn more about Voice Dialogue:
1) MID-ATLANTIC ASSOCIATION FOR IMAGO RELATIONSHIP THERAPISTS Presents Who's Mirroring Who? Applications of Voice Dialogue in Your Life & Imago Practice. Friday, June 3, 2005. 9:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. McLean Baptist Church, McLean, VA. $125 for Full Day – 6 CEU’s available.
2) Basic Training the weekend of June 17-19, 2005. This will be at the beautiful, serene, Sanctuary Retreat Center in Beallsville, MD., which is less than an hour from downtown DC. http://www.sanctuaryretreatcenter.com/. This is an introduction to the Psychology of Selves and the Aware Ego, with the focus on your personal work of being facilitated in Voice Dialogue and an opportunity to experience facilitating.
3.) Intermediate Training is the following week, June 24-26, at Ann Dobbertin’s office in Silver Spring, MD. It is for those who’ve attended our basic training or who have completed Level I elsewhere or have been actively using Voice Dialogue, the Psychology of the Aware Ego, and the energetics of the selves in their practice, and desire to expand and broaden their experience and understanding of the Psychology of the Aware Ego and its connection to Relationships and Bonding Patterns. Also for those desiring to deepen their skills in using Voice Dialogue and Imago together.
The fee for each is $375.00 or $700.00 if you attend both. ( A manual with articles and exercises to take back into your practice is provided with each training.)
For the Basic Training please add $175 for room & meals at the Sanctuary. Rooms may be double occupancy.
Each training provides 21.5 CEU hours.** This coverage is from the University of Texas at Austin School of Social Work.
We know that the Maryland NASW Board has reciprocity with the University of Texas, as does the Maryland Board for Counselors. The Virginia Board of Social Workers and Board of Psychologist also have reciprocity. If you are from another state, please check with your board for reciprocity.
**[For those who want to work with Drs. Hal & Sidra Stone, they require 36 hours Voice Dialogue training experience in order to attend a weeklong training in their mystical home near Medocino, CA. This can be accomplished through private sessions as well as training programs.]
Dorsey and Neil are a great teaching team! As a therapist and a poet both deeply involved in Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves - eachoffers a unique contribution. As a couple, they "walk their talk" so thattheir teaching comes from a rich combination of knowledge, expertise andpersonal experience. We are delighted to recommend them as teachers of ourwork. Hal Stone, Ph.D. & Sidra Stone, Ph.D.
Since 2000, Neil and Dorsey have trained therapists, and often their partners as well, in Atlanta, Detroit, Chicago, Maryland, and exotic Mykonos, Greece. In 2003 they co-presented at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington, DC and The Israeli Marriage and Family Conference near Tel Aviv. They share a commitment to making this work available to as many couples & therapists as possible, “We have discovered that being aware of our many selves and using the Voice Dialogue method adds a tremendous sense of safety, fun, good-will, and creativity to our relationship, as well as to our workshops.” Neil & Dorsey
Testimonials - From Imago Therapists who have experienced our trainings:
"Barbara and I attended a three day training with Dorsey Cartwright on Voice Dialogue and we both found it extremely helpful. It is a perfect fit with Imago Therapy and another way to deepen the work. Dorsey is a fabulous trainer. Clear, boundaried and empathic. She facilitated Barbara and me in a demo and I was so impressed with her skill." Maya Kollman, Master Trainer, New Jersey, USA
"Voice Dialogue and Imago Relationship Therapy really enrich and complement one another. Dorsey and Neil, you were great! You really gave it your all!" Susan Villet, MS, LPC, CIRT France
"Two areas that I find Voice Dialogue especially helpful. One is when a couple is really struck in the power struggle I know they are caught in a particular self (or cluster of selves) - often when I work with that self, I can then move them back into more conscious dialoguing. The other is working directly with developmental needs - knowing a person's essence is the vulnerable child and the character structure is the various primary selves that develop at each stage to protect and try to get the child's needs met. I can now talk directly with those protectors; helping the client be more conscious of and at choice in how they take care of their vulnerabilities."
Maryrita Weiner MA, LPC, CIRT, Washington, DC, USA
"Voice Dialogue is another way to help people in the dialogue process to get in touch with their childhood wounds, needed behavior changes, core scenes…. I have found it very helpful with couples that are “stuck”, couples I have been working with for awhile, couples with lots of conflict which makes dialogue difficult. I use Voice Dialogue within the Imago structure of mirroring, validating and empathizing."
Ann Dobbertin, LCSW-C, CIRT, Maryland, USA
"Voice Dialogue fits very well with Imago Therapy. When one partner is
blocked, Voice Dialogue frees them to feel more respect for themselves and
their partners." - Marjorie Hill, CIRT, Denmark
"Dorsey Cartwright in combination with Voice Dialogue creates a powerful therapeutic experience with both positive and permanent results." Pat Love, Ed.D.
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Who's Mirroring Who? ~ MAIT
Presented By M. Dorsey Cartwright, M.Ed., LPC, LMFT, CCMHC and Neil Meili
Sponsored by the Mid-Atlantic Association for Imago Relationship Therapists
Friday, June 3, 2005 9:00 am to 3:00 pm Mclean Baptist Church ~ McLean, VA.
Morning: An introductory exercise for experiencing different selves and an interactive presentation on the theory of the Psychology of Selves, followed by a demonstration of the power of only working with a primary self (character structure in Imago language).
Lunch Time: Lunch on your own; participants will fill in a brief Imago Work-up form.
Afternoon: A presentation on the role of judgments in relationships and how to use these judgments to help couples and individuals reclaim their wholeness. The focus will be on using judgments from the Imago Work-ups to enable participants to discover both a primary and disowned self (character structure and missing self).
Voice Dialogue demonstration of working with judgments and then participants will move into small groups to be facilitated by Imago therapists trained in Voice Dialogue.
MAIT has applied for (6) CE units for psychologists, social workers and counselors.
Any MAIT questions, please call Sharon Nalley @ 301-977-9840 or email email@example.com Directions to McLean Baptist Church: http://www.imagoma.org/trainout.htm (at bottom of page)
Registration for: Who's Mirroring Who? Applications of Voice Dialogue in Your Life & Imago Practice - Due: May 20, 2005
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